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Yesterday, I had coffee with a friend that I had not seen in a very long time ... as in years.  I met her when she was a teenager and I a young woman of 22 years old.  We sat across from each other, coffee in hands, recounting the years that had passed between us.  

As the day drew to a close, I began to reflect on the years that have passed between me and my coffee date.  Despite the number of days on a calendar that would prove a great number of hours and minutes have ticked on the proverbial clock of life, it seemed as if time sped by in a racing car that I was unaware had even passed my way.

Because of my passion to see young women navigate the waters of motherhood successfully, young Moms are on my heart this morning.  Before you know it, Young Momma, 28 years will have come and gone.  You may find yourself sitting in a cafe across from someone in your past.  Your children will not be cutting teeth, cutting their hair when you are not looking, or cutting up your favorite curtains.  They will be 28 years older.  Your season of motherhood will have passed. 

In 28 years, I have gotten married, birthed babies, raised children, and have sent some of those children into the world.  

I've said it times too numerous to count ... hold on to the days.  Hold on to the days!!!  Each season has its own treasures.  Enjoy and embrace the season you are now in!  Don't recoil from the day's events.  Don't bear grudgingly the tasks on your list for today.  They.go.too.fast.

Being back in Norman at times feels surreal.  It highlights the time that has passed since we raised our three girls here in this city.  One of those past seasons included something called a Bridge of Beauty.  You see, once upon a time, when our family lived in Norman, so focused was this Mom on her daughter's carrying traditions in their heads and hearts of happy childhoods that she created moments - and lots of them.  Taking one of her favorite routes through town via her silver minivan, the Mom realized on one particularly spectacular Fall day that the trees covered the street creating a canopy of sorts of splendidly covered red, brown and orange leaves.  At that very moment, she called this her girls' "Bridge of Beauty".  She told them to capture the moment in their heads just as they would a digital camera.  From now on, every time they would see a similar scene, it would forever be their "Bridge of Beauty" moment.

Libby and I drove under that Bridge of Beauty.  We will celebrate this season!  We will make our days count!!





By now you know that we are moving to the U.S. in June.  These words are settling in familiar places that don't require deep breaths before speaking and don't end in a rush of uncontrolled emotion coming from a place way too deep to describe.  This is God's way of transitioning our heads and hearts from one place to another.  It's a gift.  I am unwrapping it with great care.

I've always been a little things kind of person.  From earliest memories, it was the little things that kept me up at night making imaginary lists in my head with perfect square boxes waiting to be ticked thus proving that it had been accomplished.  The big things were out of my control and I did not even attempt to tackle them with weak muscles and inadequate resources.  I knew the big things were not mine to tackle.  The little things ... well, that was a different story.

Flowing through a rocky bed of thoughts that entertain "What if this doesn't get done?" or "What if I run out of time?" ... runs a river of peace.  This river, despite mounting to-do lists, seems to be growing.  In order to ensure I'm focusing on a growing river of peace and NOT a growing list of stressors, I've decided to begin a 21-day fast.  My virtue is not to be praised.  This fast comes out of a response to submit not only the big things that seem easiest to surrender into the hands of a good Father ... but to unclench my fists and out of my free will submit those that seem mine to tackle ... the little things.

Two days before my fast began, I got a message from a friend I have not seen with eyes in many, many years yet have beheld through Facebook.  She wanted me to know that she and her church were praying for me and my family.  Very nice.  Warmed my heart.  Then she went on to ask if there was anything we needed once we returned?  I directed her to this blog - you know the place where I pour out my heart in drips and dabs - and told her we needed everything from cars to silverware.  She immediately responded by saying she was going to begin a list of things she and her church could provide for us ... and that without looking any further she had a set of dishes that she would call mine.  Just like that ... dishes.

The day my fast began, I got a WhatsApp message.  Wihtout going into another 2,349-word description of how God used this to affirm the condition of my heart and the need for fasting I will simply say that the message was such a great reminder of God in the little things.  The words "I've been thinking about you" are much anointed and powerful tools to remind us that God uses people to remind us how much He loves us ... and our little things.

So, I've got dishes.  That may not seem much to you ... little things ... but to this heart who is chasing God in a new way, it's everything.  It's a reminder that these little things are not mine to tackle either ... He's good.  I can rest.  It will be OK.

Holding pens away from boxes that need to be ticked,
Christina







Yesterday I ignored time.  For my melancholy personality - the lover of planning, timing and schedules - this was an intentional act of friendship.

I have a dear "friend".  I call her my friend but I'm not sure there really is a title fitting for what I have with my Maria.  She is younger than I am so therefore I am a Mentor.  But, because of our similar experiences in life, we are somewhat like Kindred Spirits.  Yet, I've walked down paths ahead of her and there are times where I feel like a Mother.  And yet, because of our common bond in Jesus, when we talk of Him, there is a sense of being Sisters.  Despite what title I attribute to my Maria, she is mine.  Do you know what I mean?  Mine?  That sense of knowing deeply and being known by another person.

Because mentoring is a passion that has now become a life calling, I can't help but seek after younger women in whom I can pour out my life.  I started doing that with the three most important younger women in my life -  the three lovelies I get to call daughters.  That now extends into relationships that have grown into beautiful treasures in my life.  Maria is one of the gems in my treasure box.

Take time to develop relationships.  I know that life seasons often make it hard to really invest.  If you are a young Mom, bless your heart, your hands are full.  However, you are learning lessons and gaining wisdom in the middle of changing diapers and wiping butts that will impact a young Mom in the future.  Take time to call an older friend.  Breath.  Remember that you have precious treasures living in your home that you have been given the blessing of mentoring.  You get the chance to pour your life DNA into these little humans for whom God has big plans.

Older woman, look around you.  Who has been put in your circle of life?  I can almost guarantee that there is a younger woman who could use your advice, prayers, muffins, wisdom and perspective.  When I was a young woman, I prayed for years for someone to take me under her wing.  I so desired to be known by another woman.  Evenly, God answered my prayer but I had to go looking for it.  Be someones answer to prayer.  You've got time.  Invest.

Women need women.  Single.  Married.  Divorced.  Labels have little bearing when it comes to impacting another woman.  It takes time.  Start slow.  Grab a coffee and ask an open-ended question.  Be intentional.  Grab another coffee and share a current struggle.  I promise you it has the potential of turning into a day that you set the clock on hold and enjoy the beauty of friendship.

Humans don't make time - generally - for the things that elevate our souls and make us fit for life.  We do make time for meaningless Facebook posts, social media rants, news that depresses, chores that must be done, boxes that need ticked ... but seldom are intentional about caring for our souls.  Take time back.  Tell time where you want it to be invested.

I did that yesterday.  I have no regrets.  I'm planning on another day with my Maria.

Investing in a treasure box of relationships,
Christina


This is the reason I went to Berlin.  Friends.  It's a strange thing, friendships.  I believe God has people for you in every season of your life.  Some seasons are very brief.  Some seasons turn into lifetimes.  Some seasons bring a whole lot of junk.  Some seasons are filled with normal.  And some seasons are just lovely.  And if you are very, very blessed ... there are some seasons filled with everything.

These friends of mine have been knitted into my life for the "just about everything seasons" in my life overseas.  I do make a distinction between overseas friends and my non-overseas friends.  If you've never crossed an ocean and lived in a place where you don't know how to ask for the toilet then you have never forged friendships like those that are created while living overseas.  They are not better than non-overseas friendships ... they are just different.

Not living close to blood relatives, Sonic, or Kohl's, these girls have seen me through times when I thought I would die laughing, die crying, or die from boredom.  I've seen them through times when they wanted to run away, stow away and stay away.  We've shared Thanksgiving meals around tables of internationals.  We've packed each other up for another move.  We've discussed marriage, weight and children.  We've gossiped and confessed.  We've prayed and sat dumbfounded until an answer came.  We've scratched our heads at ourselves and each other.  We've been there ... and being there counts ... especially when you live overseas.


This is the reason for the visit ... coffee.  Seriously, not coffee for the sake of coffee but coffee for the sake of what it represents.  I love that my living in Europe has forever changed my concept of "having coffee".  It's not about the roasting of the beans that then become ground into velvet powder that then dissolves into molten liquid to be sipped at just the right temperature that equals pure heaven (OK, maybe a little) but it's the time that is created between hot cups held with warm hands.

Our first meeting was marked by ... coffee.  The sitting down together around our beverage and talking ... really talking ... and listening ... really listening.  It's the symbolism of being known and truly knowing another.

We structured our day around when the next time was we could sit in a cafe and drink ... coffee.  In those moments we discussed our healing from hurts, our hurts that needed healing, and our fears that some hurts would never be healed.  We contemplated real life in front of people that wouldn't judge how many times we cried or didn't cry or couldn't cry.  We debriefed our positions in our current lives and created scenarios of what our individual futures might, could, or should look like.  These were raw and holy conversations that over coffee felt sacred.

Our paths crossed here in Vienna.  Now, one lives in Texas while two still reside in Vienna.  A trip to Berlin by my Texas comrade created the perfect scenario for us to reunite.  Just us girls.  Away from families.  Away from home.  Alone.  Alone with time to talk.  Alone with time to talk over coffee.

I came away from my weekend in Berlin with something ... that I'm not sure I know how to put into words.  It was more than just catching up.  It was more than seeing a new European city.  It was more than buying new socks.  It was about the reconnecting with my friends that when together pulls something out in me that is good and right and whole.

These are the things friendships are made of and I am the better for my friendships.  I am also very grateful for God's timing in allowing me to forge these bonds in a season of my life that has been made sweeter for having these friends in it.

These are the good things.
Christina



Thanksgiving is such an odd celebration living in a country that doesn't recognize it as your native homelands' holiday.  There are images of families gathered around tables as seen in films by my Austrian friends, but when it comes down to it ... there are high-priced cranberries, hard-to-come-by-sweet potatoes, non-existent corn syrup, small-breasted Turkey's (OK, only breasts), make-your-own pumpkin, imported-from-my-recent-trip-back-to-the-U.S. pecans, and fake-yet-still-pretty-tasty mushroom soup substitutes that all point to the lack of Thanksgiving being anything Austrian.  And ... that's OK!  It's not supposed to be Austrian.

Yet, my dear Austrian friends got a taste (insert giant smile for the pun) of Thanksgiving yesterday.  I made the basics (Turkey, cranberry sauce, stuffing, sweet potatoes, green bean casserole, corn muffins, pecan pie) to share with those we've come to love.  It was their first real Thanksgiving experience.

Years from now, chances are many of our dear - and very young friends - will reflect upon our day together.  They will remember all the food and the new word they all learned ... "Turkey coma" ... from experience.  They will remember the pies that were oh, so sweet ... the paper plates that were oh, so American ... but I desire that they remember the sweet bond of friendship and love that was more present at our table than anything I prepared in my kitchen.  For I will celebrate the faces that I've come to recognize as my "family" ... in a foreign land ... that make my living in Austria feel like "home".

and for that ... I continue to celebrate,
while awakening from my Turkey coma,
christina
Fahrenheit.  For those of you who don't know, Fahrenheit is a non-profit mentoring agency that Chris and I founded last August (2014).  It was born out of a desire to see the spiritual climate of cultures changed one person at a time ... through mentoring!

One-on-one mentoring, business place mentoring, virtual mentoring ... this is what Fahrenheit is doing in Vienna and desires to do wherever God wants to move into!  To help spread the word about mentoring ... and specifically Fahrenheit in Austria, a dynamic duo came to shoot footage for a Promotional Video.

E and J came and plopped right smack down in the middle of our lives and happened to have a camera nearby ... at all times ... to catch clips of what goes on.  Of course, we "planned" interviews and some directed shots of friends ... but we also spent lots of time wandering the streets to get candid shots of life here in Vienna.

We are thrilled at how God uses talents of others.  E and J's vision and talent was/is a huge blessing!  We can't wait to see the finished product!  We had a ton of fun - times of great talks - lots and lots of coffee drinking - many laughs around the diner table - lots of giggles - and not enough time for Floh Market shopping!

Here are some visual images of our time together!!


E and J

Coffee was always in the agenda!

I know this is blurry, but these are a few of a fantastic group of people that we meet with every Sunday for House Church!

E and J ... and coffee!

On the UBahn ... with another friend, M who is going to be a Fahrenheit Intern!

Ubahn traveling ... me and Miss Libby!

E and Chris ... love this photo!


Schnitzel!!

J "on the job"!!

Making a little music with our friends!



Yesterday I went to see my Libby in a skit she and her 5th grade class were performing for Chapel. Libby goes to an international Christian school.  The name speaks for itself.  However, the "christian" label is given based on the foundation of the school - it's basis for education built on Biblical principles.  However, students come from all religious backgrounds.  You can see her with some of her classmates in their costumes.  In the above photo, you have the world represented:  a little American girl, a girl from the continent of Africa, and a girl from Pakistan.  Perhaps the future of world peace lies before us!

I snapped this photo of Libby (below).  She and her Bestie, Alyssa, were part of the "Worship team".  They led the group in songs that I know drifted to the ears of a smitten God.  (On a side note,  I was moved to tears.  I wasn't alone.  The Mom standing next to me was wiping tears gently off her cheeks, too.  Never was there a purer, more real moment than listening to these little humans who have lived a decade of years on planet earth or less singing about God). As the two of these girls stood, singing together, giving the occasional glance and side smile to one another, more tears came.

These two girls are true friends.  One night this week, Libby had had a rough day.  She was tired and didn't feel good and out of her mouth came the words, "I think my hormones are just going crazy!"  Can I get an amen!  

In an effort to deflect her feelings and calm ragging hormones, I asked her what was good about her day.  Without hesitation she said, "I've got a good friend like Alyssa."  No pause.  No need to think things over.  In her heart she knows she has a good friend.  And that friend means the world to her.

From second graders until now, they've grown up together.  What I hear most often from Libby's vocal chords are declarations of how Alyssa did this to help her ... or Alyssa did this to comfort her ... or Alyssa did this that made her laugh ... or Alyssa did this that made her proud.  My Libby loves her friend.

And before you mark this off as just another "cute" story of girlhood friendship, may I just add that these girls talk of things that I desire to talk about with adults!  They contemplate the role of terrorism on their lives.  They wonder what it will be like to be in heaven.  They consider the spread of Ebola and how far reaching the effects.  Yet, they still dress up like rock stars and perform on imaginary stages made up in their bedrooms!



The friendship between these two girls blesses me.  It's a picture to me of what every woman dreams of - true relationship.  The love each other.  They bless each other.  They call each other on the phone and do homework.  They share clothes.  They talk about parents.  They grow their hair out together.  In one another, they have found a soul mate, a kindred spirit.  They are each better for knowing one another.

These girls have learned a lesson they will take into their adulthood years.  They have been given and have given a great gift.  They know how to invest in another person.  They know how to share their deepest hurts.

I'm thankful for Alyssa.  I'm grateful my Libby has a friend.  It causes me to reflect on the few "Alyssa's" I have in my life ... thank you for being my friend!

a cozy feeling in my heart,
Christina
This past Sunday I sat next to a woman that I've come to love.  As we nibbled our lunches, I happened to share a struggle about aging.  She encouraged me.  I then shared a victory I had experienced in the past.  She praised the conquest.  When I hugged her goodbye, I didn't want the lunch to come to a close.  I wanted it to linger.  I wanted to continue to remain in her presence.

That, my fine feathered friends, is the power of right words!  Should it come, then, as any surprise that God says a whole lot about words?  He spoke planet earth into being, so I'm pretty sure He's putting a whole lot of weight on the things that come from our hearts, through our lips, and into the air called our words.

This morning as I sat in my new sanctuary, reading God's words and listening to  Apache and Katie (the horses) eat grass and swish flies with their mammoth tails, I read 1 Corinthians 14.  Paul, the author, uses his words to encourage this church to use their words to strengthen each other.  Why?

The church uses lots of words, but unfortunately we haven't learned the power of using the right words.  Words that build have power.  Words that come from a place in our Spirit, reflecting God's Spirit, that cause hearts and deep places within us to mutter:  "God is truly here among us" (I Corn. 14:25) seem to go unsaid.  If you don't believe me, consider the state of "the church".

I'm learning to really listen to the right words.  Words based on God's truth from His Spirit build. It's not that we never correct or reproach each other (the church) but we do so from a place of strength and in love.  The result is the outcome: building up and strengthening. 

Making another lunch date,
christina
I was asked last week to read a blog post I wrote recently on the subject of "Friendship" at a ladies gathering whose entire evening was focused on the subject.  This morning, I find myself practicing some of the "healthy habits" of a good friend that were mentioned.  I should get an award!  Please, not really - it's just something I have to do to maintain good balance in my life.  I need friends.

Last night as I was up nursing the wounds of a pre-menopausal mind (if you are not there you will not know what I am talking about ... and good for you.  Get on your knees and give praise to God!)  I lay there ... on my itchy couch, thinking about the giant-sized hole in the concrete leading out of my neighborhood; my friend across the street and her newborn; my daughter away at college; a friend's daughter who just had a baby and I was reminded of her wedding; and then onto the inevitable ... how I hate my hair.  Needless to say, I woke up ... needing more sleep.

For reasons that can not be penned on paper much less on the web for God and everybody I can not get to my makeup ... my journal ... my colored pens that I love with all my heart that I use to write in my journal.  So, I sat down at the kitchen table with my computer.  I turned on Pandora to the Sara Groves station (high recommendation here) and just sipped my liquid cup of joy and listened.  As I listened, I was inspired to send a song to a friend, write a message to another, think of another, and pray for all.  I worshipped.

I need friends.  I need to communicate with God about my friends and for my friends.  By being a friend and by receiving comfort, joy, giggles, advice from mine ... I more clearly see a loving God demonstrating Himself to me ... through ... my ... friends.

trying to be a good friend,
christina
Last Thursday I had lunch with a dear friend.  I then took advantage of time and distance and spent the weekend with another dear friend!  I'm on friend overload!

I came away from my back-to-back friend bonding times with a few things that I think we all feel but few express.  I need friends.  My husband is wonderful - good listener, supporter, encourager.  My children are wonderful - respectful, listen, like me.  However, there is something about one-on-one girl time that kick starts something in me and gives me time to refuel.

Both friends know me ... I mean ... know me.  That's key, isn't it?  It's important that we have some other being on the planet outside our immediate circle that really know us.  We need others to see us be real, authentic, raw, messy ... and still love us.  We don't need to be coddled, or at least for not very long.  We need honesty.

Both friends know my past.  They have known me through various seasons in my life.  Collectively they have seen me navigate into my 20's, 30's and now 40's, get married, bear children, bury a mom, move continents.  They have walked me through a lot of stuff.  They've been there and that's really important and key.  We need others to be there for us ... they may have no answers but we know they are there, loving us, hurting alongside with us, and often whipping us into shape.

Friends are true gifts.  Friends build you up.  Friends hold you together.  Friends refresh and revive.  If you can count the number of friends that fit this description - then you are blessed.  Not everyone is supposed to know all your "stuff".  However, those few that do and hold it dear - priceless!

Being thankful for my few,
christina



I have two young women in my life who are both sailing in the same boat, in different continents, learning two different languages, raising small children.  They are young wives and mothers.  They are adventurous.  They have sacrificed much.  By all outward appearances they are to be admired, and they are.  However, in both of their hearts lie an unsettled, unknown twinge of fear and uncertainty.  It’s not created by their lack of faith.  Oh, quite the contrary.  It’s created by lack of experience.  I, on the other hand, have the experience they lack.  Guess what … I, too, have unsettled and unknown twinges of fear that lay in my heart.
 
This morning these two girls are floating in and out of my mind.  As I sit facing the window in my room watching snowflakes fall from a grey sky, I am reminded of how bitter sweet this time of year can be.  From the very start, it was wrapped in mixed messages.  I get that impression from Luke 1:26 – 38.  Mary, the unsuspecting, a virgin, betrothed to a man and expected to live a routine life as a Jewish mother, comes face to face with the unexpected.  Shazamm!  In an instant, her life is rocked, her foundation altered, her future put into the hands of a different owner … not her own.

That’s how these two young women in my life could be described.  Both have given up “normal” lives.  Both have given up the routine for the unexpected.  Both have realized that their lives lie in the hands of a different owner.  That’s where the unsettled, unknown twinge of fear finds its’ roots.  You see, these girls have answered a calling in their lives, to follow God, and their husbands, to other lands to be used to bring a message of hope … and healing … and love.  Noble?  Yes.  Difficult?  Undoubtedly.  Impossible?  No Way!

I want to encourage these girls this morning.  On my own, I can’t.  As I pray and think and wonder and day dream about these girls, I am reminded to see things from God’s perspective … and that’s where I get a “spirit conceived” idea. 

"I am the Lord’s servant.  May everything you have said about me come true." 
 And then the angel left her.  Luke 1:38

Just like Mary, my two precious girls have heard God’s voice.  They have uttered those words, through trembling lips; I am the Lord’s servant.  They have shown Him they trust Him and desire everything He has said to come true by moving their lives to different cultures.  Now, they are left … alone.

That’s where the mixed messages start trickling in:  If I am being so obedient, why do I feel so lonely?  If I have said yes, why do my feelings say no?  If I am doing the right thing, why do I always question?  If I am hearing the voice of God, why do I doubt myself?  If I have answered a call, why is this so hard?

Sweet girls.  You have now joined the ranks of a group of women who have all walked in your shoes.  We’ve gotten blisters, sore feet, and cramps.  We’ve walked barefoot, limping and often very slowly.  Yet, we all continued to walk … one step at a time … one foot in front of the other.  You are not alone.

To be weak is to be human.  To be strong is to be undeserving of an even stronger Father.  You have begun a journey that will lead you to unknown and unfamiliar places.  But, you are not alone.  Every woman in this club has traveled this same path.  Oh sure, we’ve done it in different countries, in different clothes, in different climates and with various ages of children following behind us … but we’ve all trod this path.  And, if a thousand different voices could rise up through these words they would all shout the same message:

It’s worth it.  Welcome to the club!

Hang on, dear girls.  Hang on to the laughter of your little ones.  Hang on to the hand of your man.  Hang on to the memories of Mamma’s waving goodbye.  Hang on to the prayers of those back “home”.  Hang on to the ones who’ve gone before you.  Hang on to emails that proclaim great hope.  Hang on to the words in your BOOK.  Hang on to long baths that allow you a moment to breath.  Hang on to dirty faces that need stability in your hands.  Hang on to long grocery store lines that give you an opportunity to really look at those you’ve been called to.  Hang on to uncertainty because it forces you to be certain only of the One who sent you.  Hang on to trouble because it provides the opportunity to cling to Hope.  Hang on to hurt only long enough to give it to your Healer.  Hang on to HIM … because when He is all you want … then it’s He who is all you need.

Girls, welcome to the club.  It’s not an easy journey … but … you … are … never … alone.

“You are blessed because you believed that the Lord would do what He said.” Luke 1:45




I'm pretty sure I am too old to have a BFF.  Peer pressure tells me those are things for 9-year-olds.  Slumber parties, make-over’s, long phone conversations about boys - all things in my past.  However, if I’m honest, I stll have a BFF.  The truth is, I still NEED a BFF.  In fact, I think we all do, if we are honest.  Sure, it doesn't look like it did when I was 9-years-old - which may be a good thing or a pity - but the principle is the same.  Girls need a girlfriend to navigate through life.


On Monday, November 19, my friend, Marti, will celebrate her birthday.  When we lived in Norman, I would spend lots of time searching for the "right" gift for her.  Then, after I found my treasure, I would spend lots of time wrapping it.  (Marti and I share a love of paper, ribbon, frills, and bows.  To us, the gift wrap is just as important as the gift!)  


However, during the last 4 years that we've lived far, far, far apart, our gifts have become different.  One year it was a call to her brother - begging with him to buy wildflowers and deliver them to her office.  One year, a lengthy email pouring out words to try to express the dearness of our relationship and yet another year a silly video clip from "I love Lucy".  Just little things to remind my beloved friend of the importance of the space she occupies in my heart.


This year, however, I am going public!  She reads my blog every Monday.  And, as providence would have it, her birthday is on Monday.  So ... HAPPY BIRTHDAY, MARTI!  


Today, I blog about friendship.  Today, I brag about my friend.  Today, I celebrate the miracle of knowing someone's heart.  Today, I express gratitude for being known by someone and still being loved anyway!


It's no small thing, a friendship.  Being an avid reader of the Bible, I find it interesting how many times friendships find their way as examples of love, caring and commitment.  Marti and I affectionately say that our friendship is a David/Jonathan relationship.  They were friends.  They loved each other.  They made a covenant together, a promise that kept them bonded by more than words, but in actions.  They not only cared for and loved one another in friendship, but cared for and loved each other's families.


Marti is that person who has seen the ugly cry and was patient enough to watch.  Marti is that person who has listened to me whine and then told me in a loving way to get over it and trust God.  Marti is that person who has never told me I was putting on a few pounds.  Marti is that person who has trusted me with her heart of hearts.  Marti is that person who has prayed for me when I didn't know what to pray for myself.  Marti is that person who has loved me enough to tell me the truth.  Marti is that person who has cried when she found no words to offer to my hurt.  Marti is that person who laughs - really hard - and thinks I'm funny.  Marti is that person who has loved my girls as if they were part of her "real" family.  Marti is that person who walked with me when Anxiety was new and scary and told me one day it would all be OK. 


She was right. 


Happy Birthday, Marti.  I know you are sitting at work, at your computer, crying.  That's OK.  Tears express what our words cannot but our hearts know to be true.  I love you.  I am thankful that God knew that in this life, I would walk my journey with a friend like you.  It was His plan.  His desire.  His goodness that brought us together all those years ago.  I am better for knowing you.  







  




Living in a foreign country I feel out of the American loop ... and honestly I am so OK with that.  I eat Austrian peanut butter, exchanging the waxy goodness of the American brand for a healthier alternative that the Austrian PB offers my digestive system.  I don’t do sodas.  Diet Coke tastes markedly different here in Vienna and would much rather have an Orange Cappy (an orange juice and mineral water delight) any ol’ day instead of putting that calorie free poison down my throat.  I know nothing about recent political polls, what Obama stands for and what Romney stands against.  I haven’t seen an American sitcom in years.  I didn’t even know that gum now comes in dessert flavors (go figure).

I’ve always had an affinity for the American flag.  As a little kid, I lived in Italy, Germany, and Turkey.  Seeing my countries flag and hearing my countries national anthem while living on foreign soil truly brought warm tingles to my heart.  Living on military bases instilled in me a natural patriotism that still lingers after all these years.  I love to see a solider in uniform and fight the urge to thank him for serving his country on my behalf every time I see one.

If you are wondering why this "American" sappy talk ... my friend Beverly spent a week with me.  She was a breath of America.  She introduced me to “Call of the Wildman”, pilot 1000 fine liner pens, cocoa butter lotion, Queen Latifa perfume and brought so much yummy goodness into my life through Betty Crocker brownie mixes I may never recover!  Being around Beverly was such a good reminder of what it means to be American … and southern American at that!

I love that we have a “we can do anything” attitude.  I love that we say I’m sorry when bumping into someone.  I love that we want to make small talk with others in the grocery line.  I love that we laugh, loud.  I love that we want to sing along to all the songs on the sound of music tour.  I love that we wonder why there is no ice in our drinks, why there are no air conditioners and why milk doesn’t come in a larger containers.  I love that she gets my jokes, remembers 80's dance moves, and eats beans and cornbread.  We are a special breed … and I love us!

As an American trying to assimilate into another culture, I am always measuring myself against the cultural norms.  Don't get me wrong ... I do this because I want to!  I want to be culturally appropriate, be a student of my culture and always try to fit in and adjust.  It's a privilege to do what we get to do ... a calling ... an honor.  However, if I'm gonna keep it real, this week, with my friend here, it was fun being an … American!



In Billy Graham’s book, Unto the Hills (Word, 1986), he makes this statement that I find quite controversial: “Our generation has become well versed in Christian terminology, but is remiss in the actual practice of Christ’s principles and teachings.”

Then, I read in God’s love letter to mankind in Psalms other controversial things like … “The Lord, strong and mighty; the Lord, invincible in battle. For you have rescued me from my trouble and helped me to triumph over my enemies. What joy for those whose strength comes from the Lord, who have set their minds on pilgrimage.”

Our friends, John and Shannon, are here. It’s the first time the four of us have sat in my living room for over 2 ½ years. Most of our conversations center on the theme of what we see God doing in the world … and in our lives.

They are not perfect. My Chris and I are not perfect. We talk about how living out the practices and principles of Christ are a challenge, but one well worth the taking. We talk about how we know the terminology of faith but trying to live it out when the car breaks down or the computer crashes is difficult. We talk about the terminology of our true identity as believers and followers of Christ … but then how difficult it is to walk in that identify when we feel inadequate and unattractive (ok, that’s just Shannon and I because that’s a girl thing … this feeling unattractive. But, alas, that’s another blog!). Sadly, we talk about those who we’ve known that have ceased to or regressed in their journey with Christ. We talk about them with the sober reality that but for the grace of God we could be talking about ourselves.

Where, oh where are the followers of Christ that believe what the love letter from God claims as truth?

Where are those that believe that the Lord is strong and mighty? We settle, instead, for a God we say is strong and mighty but then we take it upon ourselves to be stronger and mightier and solve the problems with our own resources. It’s easier to slap down the credit card than to trust in a mighty God with unlimited resources.

Where are those that would declare that they’ve been rescued from trouble and triumphed over enemies? We settle, instead, for just getting by because it’s too much effort and personal sacrifice to really go deeper and find a permanent solution.

Where are those whose joy comes from the Lord and have set their minds toward following a radical God? We settle, instead, for fleeting joy from a pill, a bottle or a shopping spree and cloud our minds with cultural distractions, ignoring our inner cries of self longing and dissatisfaction.

I pray to a God I know created the universe yet I doubt His power in revealing Himself to my neighbor. I declare my devotion to a loving God that knitted me in my mother’s womb, and then wonder if He is able to balance my hormones. Pitiful … and yet so human.

I’m inclined to thinking it’s not the doubt that keeps us from discovering God, but in the midst of doubt, setting our minds on pushing through it and coming face to face with Him and discovering His power.

Where are those who would do the same? If we don’t, we lose everything. It’s time for us to wake up! Our status as blessing receivers and hoarders is quickly coming to an end. Radical living is called for … radical faith, radical joy, radical believe.

Taking it all in,
Christina
We have very dear friends, the Irwin's. We have known them for 12 years. When we left Oklahoma to move to Vienna, the Irwin's and I (speaking for all Elledg'es) dreamed of and prayed for the day that God would bring them to Vienna. Today, as I type, they (John, Shannon and sweet Shelbi) are snuggled in their beds upstairs in my house ... in Vienna! I'm just reminded over and over again of the Psalms that say ... "the Lord has done great things for us."

The Irwin's love Jesus. They are teaching their 3 children to love Jesus. They make me want to love Jesus more.

In the last 2 years, they've watched 2 families they've grown to love leave Norman to serve overseas. I don't break a confidence when I tell that last night, as Shannon was sitting in our big blue chair, she made a confession. After finding out that the second family was being sent out to serve, she was mad at God. "Why do you send everyone away? Why don't you send me?"

Do you know what God said to her, in the turmoil and hurt of her heart? "Because I've put you where I want you."

I don't know when I've heard such beautiful words. I've put you where I want you. God of the universe, who created every star and gave it it's name, created every being that walks and moves and breaths on the planet ... has put them where He wants them. To use them to show others who He is ... and how He loves.

She's settled. She knows her purpose. Her heart still chases the friends that live across the world, but only for a short time and in a healthy way. She's been given a gentle yet profound reminder that God has put her, in Norman, Oklahoma, for a specific purpose for this specific time.

What about you? Are you settled in knowing you are where you are at this moment in time for a purpose? God loves you. God has a plan for you. Don't spend your days pinning what was ... or looking too far into the future. He wants ... no he passionately desires for you to know that you have a place in this world. Embrace it. Use your life.

When the Irwin's came yesterday, they brought with them an entire suitcase from my Mom, Jo Ann. I kid you not, they gave up one of their baggage allowances so she could spoil us with an entire suitcase full of treasures!

For several months, as I have spent time reading the Bible and listening to God, I've noticed He keeps pointing out two words to me: unfailing love. Every time I come across these words, I underline them and make a note of them in my journal. I've come to see these words show up in the most unusual places and situations in the Bible. Every time they appear, I know this is God showing me to pay attention.

After realizing God was up to something, I asked him to show me in a new way the meaning of those words. I know God loves me. But He's set my heart on a search to find out how radically and creatively He loves me with these two simple words: unfailing love.

As I opened up the suitcase from my Mom, I was flooded by another revelation of the meaning of unfailing love. The extravagent treasures I found in that suitcase reminded me how God loves me with unfailing parental love. The things I unpacked spoke right to my heart (like cozy PJ's and watches that have "bling"). They were things that a mother knows her child (despite that child be almost 43 years old) would like. They were things that demonstrated her knowing who I am and what my heart would like. They were things that I wouldn't buy for myself ... even though I wanted to. They were tings that made me feel pretty. They were things that shouted her unfailing love for me, her daughter.

I was overcome ... with gratitude, with feeling loved, with knowing my heavenly Father chose once again to demonstrate to me in a new way how He loves me. And ... he used my Mom to show me.

So, the Irwin's are here ... I'm wearing my new PJ's and wearing my "bling" ... and feeling so loved I could just pop!

Close to popping,
Christina

Yep. My Chris had two extra girls to put up with ... I mean, to have the pleasure of being around this past week.

Prince among Men

Man of the Year

Man for all Seasons

a man having the Patience of Job


... any title you would like to bestow upon my Chris would fit. He put up with 4 Elledge females, plus the addition of two Bader girls, one bathroom and lots of hormones!

Bader girls, Sydney and Cecily, arrived on Wednesday evening. Having met them over 14 years ago, when they were respectively 2 and 4, at 15 and 17 they have changed a bit from our first introduction. They are taller, can tie their shoes, laugh at my jokes, clean and dress themselves and many other tasks befitting their age. In a word, they are simply lovely.

I wrote their mamma, Sheila, an email professing my deep and new found affection for these young women of hers. As I confessed my admiration, I kept thinking that it "seemed just like yesterday" these young women were being put in time out and being taught to share their toys. Now, one crosses that border into adulthood by heading to college, far away from her home in the state of Washington into God's country, OU. A new chapter, a new adult chapter, in her life is getting ready to unfold. The other begins her Junior year in high school as President of the Student Body, leading others to be young, responsible leaders for the future. "Where did the time go" ... I say, scratching my head.

Chasing time is like chasing the wind. You see it, you feel it, and you just can’t catch it. Profound, hugh?

All the while I'm reflecting over these young women and their place in the world, I'm reading through Ezekiel right now. If you are prone to bouts of depression, don't read Ezekiel. It's not pretty. However, Ezekiel is being sent to rebellious Israel as a messenger: get it together or pay the consequences. It seems a lot of his message is pointed to the religious, the "good", those in charge. Quit playing games, quit giving your heart to idols, turn your whole heart to God ... the great I AM. He doesn't mince words.

Just doing a bit of reflecting about my role as one on the way out someday ... and what I have to leave the next generation like these sweet Bader girls. I fear my generation may be guilty of those Ezekiel came to scold. Church is not a place you go to on Sunday, it's the body of Christ ... that should be lived out on a daily basis expressing the hope and life and love of Jesus. What I give myself to wholeheartedly will be revealed by my actions. What I believe in my heart will be expressed in my attitude toward others, toward God.

Still reading ... still learning ... and still giggling over our pictures from the Bader girls. Life is sweet.

Christina

... thank you for giving us friends ... old friends that knew us when we dreamed dreams that we now live and watched us develop into what we have now become. Thank you that miles and locations play no role in the closeness you keep in the hearts of friends. Thank you that small trips to see one another make huge impacts in our emotional and spiritual well-being. Thank you that weight and health issues fall by the way-side when friends assess value of one another. Thank you that when friends share faith in Jesus Christ, life on earth is just an introductory chapter to what lies ahead of us in eternity.

Thank you for giving my friend, Beverly, the vacation time and resources to spend a week with us Elledge's. Thank you that she made a kindred impression on my daughters. Thank you that she revived my spirit by just talking the same language my heart does. Thank you that she knows how to laugh ... and to cry. Thank you for letting her find the biggest "bling" I've ever seen on the planet and makes Libby want to grow up and be just like Beverly! Thank you that she told stories about my "out of the box" thinking as a young woman that inspired Parker and Addison and gave them a peak into my "younger" years.

Thank you for the tears at the airport ... and her scent lingering on our pillows. Thank you for creating pockets of time that brings such sweetness.

Thank you that only a day later, Marcie got to hang out with us for a short day. Thank you for the vision and purpose you've put on her heart to serve you. Thank you for a cool day to show her the sights. Thank you for her words that reminded us that you have a plan for the whole world. Thank you for her journey of faith that inspires our own.

I'm tired. But I'm full to the gills with giddy sweetness from visits from friends. What will heaven be like? You are so good .... and I'm so grateful.

Your happy daugther,
Christina
This week we marched right past our second anniversary in Wien. Hard to believe. As I thought about the last two years, I thought about the things that have taken place: buying things to go in a flat, enrolling kids in new schools, studying a new language, buying groceries, using new currency, writing numbers in a different way, buying bread by the truckloads, drinking coffee by the buckets … all new experiences that have now been mastered.

Then, as I began rummaging through my digital photo album on my computer, I thought about all the people that I didn’t know two years ago. Two years ago, I came with just the friends I had collected through my 40 years. However, in two years time, I have collected a spectrum of friends from all over the world.

Ok, so what is a “friend” anyway? When I’m in a pondering kinda mood, I choose to ask my friend Webster what he thinks. According to Webster (as in the dictionary if you are not following me) he says a friend is:

1. One attached to another by affection or esteem
2. One that is not hostile (Ha! This is my personal favorite!)
3. One that favors or promotes something
4. A favored companion

Webster then goes on to give synonyms of the word “friend”. I love synonyms. They make the world such a nice place to operate/live/exist/survive in. So, “friends” can also be referred to as … alter egos, amigos, buddy’s, chum’s, compadres’, comrades, confidants, cronies, familiar, intimates, mates, musketeer’s and pals.

It is now my life’s goal to quit using the word “friend „and begin using a new synonym every time I make reference to an alter ego.

Ok, being the very contemplative one, and filled with words that need to trip off my tongue and onto a page, I got to thinking about this collection of amigo’s I’ve acquired/gained/got. Some I see every day. Some I see seldom, but desire to see more. Some are acquaintances I’ve made through school. Some are chum’s that share the same sense of humor. Some have been thrown into my life through my daughters/offspring/reproductive outcomes. Some have been places in my life through shared job/career/calling. Some will leave soon. Some will linger in my life perhaps forever.

With this varied description/profile/report of compadre’s, it doesn’t take long before you see the handprint of God. Each crony, as varied/diverse/mottled as they all are, have one thing in common: they have been designed/considered/premeditated by the Creator of the universe. He knit them all in their mother’s womb. He chooses for them to cross my path/lane/corridor at this appointed time in my life. To me, that’s just fascinating (long pause for dramatic emphasis and reflection ...)!

So … as I look forward/onward/ahead into my future here in Wien, I wonder who else God might bring/transport/fetch to be my musketeer? One thing is for certain/sure/assured – it won’t be by accident/mishap/mistake. God, who knows how many hairs (grey and all!) dwell on my scalp, also knows the buddy’s He will allow to crash/collide/smash into my life. There will be a purpose, a time table and a result.

In honor of the mates He has put in my life so far … I made/prepared/completed a video that shows a glimpse of those pals that have been introduced/brought/shoved into my life these past two years. Now, I will be honest … there are a few pics of comrades that I’ve known for a really long time (Bettina, Marti, Shannon). I’d like to tell you some mushy/sentimental/heart- felt reason why they made the cut. Truth is – I needed more photos! Several pics are familiar’s of my daughters … which in turn have become my “friends” too!

Here’s to friendships/alliances/camaraderie! May the gift of relationships always be something we are grateful for … (Just a little technical note: when you click on the arrow to play this slideshow, you then need to push the play arrow once again to get the pics rotating. The music will begin and one photo will come up but if you don't push the play arrow the pics won't change.)

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While Chris was enjoying a conference with other like-minded leaders in Germany, the girls and I celebrated our week off by cleaning, cleaning out and cleaning up. Don’t be jealous!

While Addison has the deluxe pleasure of having her own room, the “little girls” (my Parker and Libby) get … (notice how diplomatically I worded that?) … get to share a room. In an effort to help Parker have some much needed pre-teen privacy, we have been in the process of redoing their room. Parker has traded her twin for a full-sized bed. We also spruced up old bedding with new and an old room divider with new paint. They (the “little girls”) actually painted the room divider themselves!

Now, before you start feeling super sorry for us little Cinderella’s we did get to celebrate at the end of the week by hosting a dear friend, Sheri, from Tucson, Arizona.

Sheri became my friend when we moved to Tucson, Arizona in 1998. She had two sons that became then 3 year-old Addison’s, playmates. Although our time together was short-lived, less than 2 years, God knitted us together. The strength of those stitches were seen and experienced during our weekend together. As we sat over coffee and pastries, and I rattled on and on about my deepest struggles and she sat there … ever so earnestly listening and offering pearls of wisdom … I praised God for the value of true, heart friendships! We did some sightseeing, drank some good coffee, ate a few pastries, but perhaps the most watering to my soul was the conversations around our dining room table just sharing life, laughing and reminiscing. I’ve often heard others declare that God uses His people to communicate aspects of Himself. God used my Sheri to communicate deep love and affection through the bonds of friendship. I feel so loved on by her … and my Father!

And, speaking of love … the girls have a Valentine’s Dinner planned for their Dad. Shhhh … it’s a surprise! It will happen tonight so don’t spill the beans! I’ll be sure to post pictures later!


It's summer! If you can't tell from the strange expression on Addison's face, then perhaps you can tell it from the adulation in my fingers. This is the final week of Language School for Chris and I. I wish this blog had audio ... and you could hear my shouts of extreme joy, adulation and giddiness! This Saturday, the Family Elledge leaves for a week in Germany. We are headed to a location I don't even know the name of yet for a time of rest and renewal with other colleges from our Board. We are looking forward to the train ride, the down time, and the family time.

Upon getting back from Germany, the older girls have 2 weeks until school starts. Our plan: chill, chill, chill and then chill some more!

On Friday, July 24, my kindred friend, Veronica White became the first visitor to our home in Austria. She and her friend Lorie had just completed a 5 day cycling tour through Switzerland. We were their final destination before heading back home to ... (drum roll please) ... "OOOOOOKLAHOMA ... where the wind comes sweeping down the plains" .

It was fun taking them around our city and experiencing it through their eyes. Even though we are newcomers to Vienna, we could tell we had accomplished some mile markers in the short time we've been here. We were able to take them (via public transportation) to the really touristy places downtown. We were able to order ice cream, in German, and get the right things. And we gave them the ultimate Vienna experience by eating in a Beer Garten complete with Wiener schnitzel and Almduler (a traditional apple drink). For those of you who haven't met my friend Veronica, you are missing out. I'm pretty sure she sang every rendition of "The Hills are Alive" ever known to man. It wasn't annoying, it was sweet. It wasn't obnoxious, it was sweet. It didn't get on any one's nerves, it was sweet. She didn't drive anybody crazy, it was sweet. Am I rambling? I can't tell because all I can hear in my head is the sound of her voice singing, "The Hills Are Alive"... AGH!

For those of you who would like to get our newsletter, I'll tell you about the most amazing experience we had on Saturday! Just let me know in the comment section of our blog if you would like to receive it. Let me just wet your whistle with a teaser ... it was a 10 hour party and that's all I have to say about that!

Random things you may or may not want to know about:

1. We have received 4 packages of Brownie Mix, 2 things of cotton balls, ear plugs to clog every ear in Vienna, peanut butter, and Burts Bees. One word: WOW!! Thank you all who made us feel so loved!
2. Chris had a major epiphany this week when he ever so profoundly made this statement: "You don't appreciate the present until it becomes a part of your past." Let that soak in awhile.
3. We had hail last Thursday night. Felt just like being at home.
4. Parker is getting a free loaf of bread from our local bakery for having a birthday.
5. I have the next birthday, and just like Parker, I too will be in the double-digits.
6. A mixed salad here means 2 kinds of sour kraut, carrots and potato salad on a plate.
7. Libby is officially going to a bilingual school in September.
8. A typical Viennese Breakfast consists of rolls, bread, butter, jam, soft boiled egg, meats and cheeses and of course, coffee!
9. You sometimes have to pay to use the ... potty.
10. We welcome any one who wants to be our second visitors in our home in Austria!!
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